As if your first dance isn’t daunting enough, you then have to deal with the pressure of writing and delivering an amazing speech that will not only impress your guests, but more importantly your brand new bride.
Some of you grooms may try to get around the whole speech thing, but in our experience, there’s really NO way out. Even if it’s not on the schedule, someone will probably hand over the mic in an impromptu manner (more often than not the best man). We get that you’re probably not a regular bard, but that doesn’t mean you’re not going to own that mic – because you so are! The hardest thing when it comes to speech writing is to actually get started, and that’s where we come in.
We’ve put together a list of the top 5 things you need to consider when writing your speech.
1. Do not list
It’s good practice (and a must) to mention your best man who’s been there for you through your bachelor years and let’s not forget your parents and siblings who have shown you nothing but unconditional love and support always. Instead of listing names sometimes it’s easier to mention people in groups (i.e my friends, cousins, aunts and uncles to avoid the embarrassment of missing someone important out). Keep it flowing nicely, no one wants to sit there listening to a list of nonstop names.
2. Keep it original
You’ve typed ‘best groom speeches’ in Google and feel ecstatic with the results you’ve seen – all you need to do is copy and paste, right? WRONG! If you’ve found these generic speeches so easily then everyone else will have to, and they’ll also have heard the same speech over and over again. To avoid sounding unoriginal and like you’ve come straight off the Internet, remember to be creative and make it personal to you and your bride.
3. Find the right balance
It’s so important to get the right balance between humour and sincerity. Your whole day is about celebrating your love, it is NOT a chance for you to practice your stand-up comedian routine. When writing your speech balance out witty one-liners with details about why you asked her to marry you. Describe what you adore about her and how your life has changed since you met her. Your bride will appreciate these little gestures and even though she may not say it at the time, she’ll thank you for making her feel like the most special girl in the world.
4. Always compliment the bride
She picked the most gorgeous dress, spent hours selecting the right accessories, and made countless trips to the salon for facials and so on. Believe us when we say she really did do it all for YOU. Whether you say she looks stunning, gorgeous or breathtaking – phrase it however you wish, but don’t forget to tell her how absolutely beautiful she looks.
5. 10 minute rule
As a standard you will probably have at least 3 speeches in total, and if you’re having a big fat Indian wedding you will most definitely have family dances and entertainment. No matter how amazing this all may be, remember your guests can become easily restless and bored. Keep your speech no more than 10 minutes long (also applicable for the best man and the father of the bride). If you’re really nervous then there’s nothing wrong with a short and sweet speech all about her. Those are the ones we love to hear the most.